Saturday, November 17, 2012

Mentoring for Teen Girls by a Teen Girl {2}

I got a request to do a post about not giving other people's feelings and secrets away and gossiping.

Not too long ago, I posted {here} about gossiping. I will post here what I wrote.

Gossiping is one of the main things that ruin friendships. The Bible has many things to say against gossiping.

Proverbs 11:13
A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.

Proverbs 16:28
A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends

Proverbs 20:19
A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much.

These are only a few verses in the Bible that talks against gossiping. There are many, many more. There are two things that we, as humans, need to be careful with gossiping:

(1. Don’t gossip against a person.
(2. Don’t choose friends or hang out with people that gossip.

Once I met someone who seemed really nice, so I really liked her. Then once we started talking, I could tell she was gossiping about lots of people. I started feeling uncomfortable then I left.

Now if that happens to you, you don’t have to say, “I don’t want to hang out with you.” You can just be polite and leave if you feel uncomfortable.
The next time you feel ready to gossip, just remember if you would want people to be saying those kind of things about you.

Now about giving someones feelings and secrets away, the only thing that you can do is put yourself in the other person's shoes. Would you want them to be telling people your private feelings and secrets. I'm sure all of us has had one person spill the secrets we told them. I know that has happened a lot, and it hurts. It makes you feel like you can't trust them anymore. So the next time your ready to tell something about someone else ask yourself if you would want them to say that about you.


  1. Very good, Hadassah. I have to remember to keep my mouth shut sometimes when it's so tempting to spill that juicey piece of gossip. :P Sometimes it's hard to tell between telling someone very close what happened, like your family, or asking for advice, and gossiping. I think it's when you take it too far, or when you just want to run off at the mouth that it becomes a problem.

    <3 Elizabeth

    1. Yes, its hard many times to keep our mouth shut, because we love talking and sharing things about others. Thanks for your input!

  2. Nice post Hadassah:)


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