As teen girls we all have to struggle with gossiping. Whether you are the one that is telling everyone all about the latest news about someone's family, someone is coming to you to tell you the latest news, or people are talking all about you and your personal life. As humans we all have to struggle with getting into other people's business. Women more than men sadly struggle with this more. I never realized the harm that gossiping could do to people or even how it made people feel until people were gossiping about me. Rumors have quickly spread at a place that I work that I was pregnant and just so many other stupid lies. People would look at me with disgust when I would walk past and I would have no clue what I had ever done to them. I would slowly hear about things people were saying about me, and let me tell you, it hurt really bad. The people that I called my friends ended up being back stabbers. Things that I thought were confidential, so many people ended up knowing. Now I am definitely not saying that I am perfect and have never said one thing negative about a person. I have to admit that I have, but I am working so hard not to. If you struggle with this, one thing that I find very helpful is to think about what I'm going to say before I start talking. Is what I'm going to say about any people that is with me at the moment? If not then I should probably not be talking about it. Is what I'm going to say going to hurt someone if they knew what I was saying? If yes, well you should probably not say it. These two questions really can even out whether you should be talking about it or not. So the next time your ready to say something about someone, put yourself in their shoes. Would you want someone to say this about you?
Ashley, I'm so sorry that you have had such a hurtful experience with gossiping. But it's obvious that you understand first-hand what kind of damage spreading rumors and gossiping behind peoples' back really does.
ReplyDeleteI've never really had such a terrible experience like that, but it is a fear of mind. I worry about what people say about me when I'm not there and that fear makes me think twice about what I say about others when they're not with me.
God bless!
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I think so many people fear what is being said behind their back. If people actually take their fear into consideration and stop what they say about people behind their backs, it will definitely cut down the amount of gossip that goes around. Thank you for sharing!
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