I am Me

In our teen years and even young adult age we are constantly trying to figure out who we are and what is our place in the world. Honestly I am still trying to decide who I want to be. As we grow up our friend group changes and our whole personality changes sometimes. Either we change so we can be cool or we change because we have a goal of the type of person that we want. 

One hard thing I've realize is hard for teen girls is when it comes to guys. Like c'mon who does not want to have a good looking boyfriend who is sweet and absolutely perfect? One thing I've caught myself doing, without even realizing it was changing who I was based on how a guy wanted me to act.

As girls we want to be accepted and appreciated by guys, am I right? I do not think that is wrong that is how we were made, but wanting to be accepted by guys can be dangerous. You do not want to ever change yourself and give up who you are for a guy. The right guy will love you for who you are. Sadly it took me completely changing to figure that out. 

So when you look for your perfect guy make sure he loves you for who you are. He should not want to change anything about you. You should be able to be your self 100% around him. Having to change how you act or even your personality because you want to make it happy is giving up yourself. You should not have to give up yourself to be with someone who makes you happy. 

If you have any guy advice or any advice for that matter visit my Advice Column page and I will be more than happy to give you advice on any topic!!

Your Help Is Needed!

Heyyyy everyone!!

So I'm in the process of redoing my blog and making it better and more enjoying, but I need your help! What would you like to see posted on this blog? What are your ideas?

Please leave them in the comments below!

Are You Ready?

I'm sure many of you have heard about the Isis attack in Brussels, Belgium. Normally I don't pay much attention to attacks in other countries in the world, but lately I've been thinking hard about all of these attacks that Isis is doing.

This world has become so violent and scary. When I watch on the news about these attacks it occurs to me that my city could be next. You never know. This has made me think long and hard about what if Isis attacked where I was living. Would I be ready to go? This has made me realize that I need to live everyday that it may be my last. Make sure you are right with God and everyone else in your life.   This world needs Jesus. 

Are You Chasing Rainbows or Thunderclouds?

Do you ever feel like your life is always a thunderstorm? Everything is always going wrong for you and life just isn't that bright anymore?

We basically have a choice in life to either look at the thunderclouds and negative things that happen in life. We can focus on those things and always be depressed on down. This is the easiest thing to do. I do this quite often. But is that really the best thing for you to do? Should you really be concentrating on all the negative things in life?

Another thing you can do in life is look at the rainbows in life. Yes, bad things will happen in your life and its going to be hard, but if you look at the rainbows and good things in your life, you will stay more positive. When it is storming we often focus on how dark and gloomy it is. Then when the sun starts shining in during the rain a rainbow will appear. When it is storming out and you see a rainbow, do you focus on the dark clouds and the storm or do you admire the rainbow? Most of us I can say admire the rainbow, regardless of the storm. If we do this in our life and focus on the positive things in life, the bad things in life won't be as difficult to see. 

So what are you chasing? Thunderclouds or rainbows?

Where has the Time Gone?

Christmas is in exactly one week away. I have no idea where the time has gone! I remember when I was little it felt like eternity until Christmas was here. I would start counting down the days in July for when Christmas would come. Now it sneaks up and its so unexpected. Nothing is ready for Christmas and its already a week away.  While I was thinking about this, I realized that I am not getting any younger and time will continue to go by fast, and I don't want to miss out on something amazing.

We all have goals and things we want to achieve in life, but like everyone else I love to procrastinate. I put off all of my goals. At the beginning of every year when I make my New Year resolutions, I always have such huge plans for the upcoming year. But once the year starts I begin to procrastinate all of the amazing things I had planned. I just push them aside and tell myself maybe next week I'll work on that. Sooner than I know, its already the end of the year and all of the goals that I made at the beginning of 2015 have been left untouched. 

Another thing I've realized about time is that we don't appreciate the people in our lives enough. A little over a year ago, my grandma passed away... I hadn't seen her for over a year before she died. Now that she's gone, I've realized that I put it off for way too long to see the people I care about and actually take time out of my day to spend even a little bit of time with them. 

So all I can say is that time is passing quickly by and none of us are getting any younger. We should pursue our goals and not push them aside for late. And most important spend time with your loved ones today. Don't wait until its too late.

Faith Vs. Fear

Do you ever have that experience when you want to do something crazy, but then you get too scared to actually ever do it?

So many times we have dreams and callings in our lives and we get extremely excited to pursue the dream or calling. Then when we begin to work towards our goal, things become tough and we chicken out and decide maybe it wasn't such a good idea. That's a pure example of letting our fear overcome our faith.

When we have a dream or a goal we should definitely chase after it and achieve it. It of course is not going to be easy so we can't expect it to be done with the mere snap of our fingers. No, we are going to have to work for it. It may get difficult and you may want to give up, but if you keep pursuing towards your goal, you will achieve it.

God never puts anything in your life that He doesn't think that you can't achieve. You need to have faith that God will see you through and that He will give you the wisdom to work through it.

What is True Beauty?

So now that finals are quickly approaching then after that, I'll be on my winter break from school for over a month, I thought I should start blogging again! :D I'm so excited to be writing some more. I've missed talking to you all so much!

Lately I had to write an argumentative paper for my college English class. I could choose the topic and I chose girl's self-esteem. Yes, I know this is a very very deep subject for an English class, but I'm super passionate about helping young girls that even in my English class I wanted to share it. As I began writing, it took me barely an hour to write a 5 1/2 page paper because I had so much I wanted to say and share. Now I won't type up my entire paper for you all, but I do wanna share some of the key details I did write about, that I think is extremely important.

Years ago when Marilyn Monroe was alive and a model, she was considered beautiful. Even though she had curves and maybe not the "picture perfect" body, she was still beautiful. If that was true then, why does it have to change now. Society has tried to change everyone's outlook on true beauty. Personally I think everyone is beautiful and I'm definitely not just saying it. I've never seen an ugly girl in my life. To me it doesn't matter if you are super thing or if you are curvy. Everyone was made different but we all are beautiful. Just because we do not look like the celebrities we see in magazines, doesn't mean that we aren't beautiful. And guess what?! The models in those magazines don't even look like that. While I was researching information for my paper I cam across an interview with a celebrity and she shared that she had to talk herself up in the morning, constantly reminding herself that she was gorgeous. Society puts celebrities on a pedestal, but in reality they are just like you and me. I know it is a lot of work to be completely happy in yourself and how you look. Trust me I know. I'm still struggling with it. But something I have to remind myself is that it doesn't matter what other people think. I need to stop comparing myself to others. If I am happy with how I am, that is all that matters. Me comparing myself to others realizing I'm not as fit as another girl is not going to help me in any way. Its just going to bring me down. So to answer the question what is true beauty? Its you girls. All of you are true beauty!

Challenge of the day: Compliment another girl today! I feel like us girls don't compliment each other enough. Now don't go say ooooh I love your shoes (that is a great compliment) but say something like you look super pretty today. Say something positive to the girls around you. We need to bring each other up!

Catching Up

I know its been such a long time since I've posted. Like 6 months.... I can't promise that I'm going to post regularly, but I want to start posting more. So much has been changing in my life since I last posted. I am now graduated and started college.

Nothing actually too new and exciting in my life. But I am going to college and struggling actually a lot with it. But of course I have to expect that college will be extremely harder than highschool. One thing I have learned about college is that the people there are so much different than those in highschool. Personally I feel like the students there are more mature, than the kids I left in highschool. Obviously I'm not a pro at college, since I'm still in my first semester, but if any of you guys ever have any questions or need advice about college, I will be more than happy to start a college type of series! :)

I started a journal type blog where I share my thoughts!

Check it out

http://thoughtsofacollegegirl1.blogspot.com/

Blemish Free

Colossians 1:22

But now he has reconciled you by Christ's physical body through death to present you holy in his sight, without blemish and free from accusation.

In order for any of us to receive eternal life with God, we need to be absolutely perfect. We need to have no sin in our life. There is no one in the world who hasn't sinned ever, except for Jesus. But we do have a chance to receive eternal life through Jesus. He died on the cross for all of us to take all of sins that we have or will ever commit. He put it all on himself so we can be blameless, and have eternal life. That is such a wonderful thought, to know that Jesus died for everyone. He cared enough to go through all that pain, so we (who are far from perfect) could have a chance at eternal life.

Feeling Lonely {Ashley's Advice}

Someone recently left me a comment that they weren't able to spend time with their friendly lately and they have been feeling lonely.

This is kinda a hard question to give advice on, since I don't really know your specific situation. I would maybe plan a day when all of your friends and you can just hang out. Whether you all go out to get coffee or plan a day just to talk. Once you are able to reconnect with friends, you stop being lonely. I don't always have time and am able to hang out with my friends, but I try my best to talk to them on a daily basis. Whether its emailing, texting, calling, snapchatting, you name it. I think if you just keep in contact with your friends, it helps you not feel as lonely.

I hope this helped a little to all of you that had questions. Please comment below your opinion on relationships too! I would love to hear them!
Also if you have any advice you would like posted please go to my Advice Column page. (You will always remain anonymous.)